Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said: The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These people have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.
Beautiful people do not just happen. Beautiful people are made. Through tragedy, loss, pain and suffering we find out who people really are. Who we truly are. And sometimes, perhaps most times, we don’t appreciate this unique beauty – borne in the raging fire of life – until it is gone. I think back with sadness on how many months and years of solitude she had to come to terms with her life. I wish I had gone to see her more. I could’ve learned a lot from her. Today Stacey’s legacy lives on in her children, her family, and all the people whose lives she touched by her bright eyes, her dazzling smile, her free spirit and her unwavering love. We will certainly miss you around the table. Rest in peace sweet friend.
In honor of Stacey’s life, today I’m sharing 5 things I vow not to take for granted:
- The sweet kiss my husband gives me every single morning before he leaves for work.
- My 9-year old asking me to hold his hand.
- My 7 year old asking me to snuggle under the blanket and watch a show.
- My 5-year old baby boy saying every day: “Mom? Me: Yes? Him: I love you.” (And then usually using it to manipulate me into doing something I don’t want to do, like jumping on the trampoline… It works every time.)
- Our big fluffy puppy bear dog who I regularly find sprawled on his back, legs flopped up in the air, tongue hanging out, oblivious to everyone and everything just completely soaking in the moment.
I don’t cherish these things enough. I don’t say yes enough. I don’t relax, and just ‘be’ enough. I can’t help but notice that this list is comprised of the people I’m most likely to be annoyed by or take for granted because I know all of their quirks and they know mine and we push each other’s buttons every single day. Yet they’re the ones whose very crazy-making ways fill my eyes with tears thinking how much I would miss them if they were gone. Too often I’m overrun by my list of “very important things” that I miss the little things. The simple pleasure of being present. The importance of the average everyday. The gift of contentment. The beauty of being grateful for whatever may come.
In a world so full of big problems, I want to be grateful for small things and I don’t want to take for granted the people who mean the most. And in spite of the suffering required, I want to be made beautiful. In honor of Stacey, today I challenge you to make a list of 5 things you don’t want to take for granted. Life is short, and memories are sweet, but lets first enjoy every moment we’ve got. What’s on your list?
Live well my friends. xo