i don’t know about you but i get really caught up in doing.
days and weeks go by that we function in a constant state of doing. breakfast, laundry, dishes, dressing, working out, errands, writing, cooking, cleaning. our days are filled with doing, doing, doing. there’s so much to do!
i made a honey-do list for my husband once. it hung on the refrigerator door about four weeks before i took it down. it just wasn’t going to get done.
because my husband is far better than me at not doing. and it really irritates me a lot of the time. he has no problem not doing. he loves nothing more than to come home from work, put up his feet and do nothing the rest of the night. i mean, lazy right?!
you see, though i’m far better at doing, my husband is way better being. far, far better at being.
me, i get caught up in lists. how-tos. learning ways to do things better. checking boxes or crossing things off. i get caught up in other’s opinions, expectations, judgment, acceptance, or rejection of my doing.
he would rather just be. and he is who he is, no matter who he’s around. his being IS his whole being. because he doesn’t do. he is.
instead of getting frustrated with his lack of doing and love of being, i’m going to try it this week. less doing. more be-ing. because i don’t want to just do. i want to be: happy. kind. generous. loving. forgiving. fun. i want to be remembered by my kids as a mom who lived with her whole heart. who didn’t do love but who WAS love. who didn’t do things but WAS everything they needed.
can you imagine what it would be like if we were all free to be? be ourselves?! flawed and imperfect and perfect and loved just the same?
forget doing. tear up the list. the rest of this week, lets be. with all that we are, no matter who likes it, who hates it, what we’re afraid of, who’s offended or who’s jealous of it. just be YOU. beautiful you. i wonder if we could do that.