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When you take a face plant


Anybody got a hinder?

As we are boldly designing unhindered lives, I thought it might be wise to talk about what that means.

A hinder is something that: 1. makes slow or difficult the progress of; or 2. holds us back.

Anyone have any of those? I sure do.

Have you ever had a moment when you were moving along totally unaware, and something from your past…a loss, hurt, fear, regret or failure just literally came out of nowhere and sent you reeling before you knew what hit you?

It happened to me. I didn’t see it coming, and I took a total face plant.

If you scroll down a bit on the definition you see that a hinder can also be described as a fetter, handcuff, handicap, a hog-tie, or a shackle.

A stress that causes harmful or annoying delay or interference with progress.

Seems a little bit more important now, doesn’t it? I certainly don’t want to live my life shackled by a person or thing from my past. A lie, or a fear.

So I’ve been thinking about it and wondering why it sent me back.

I knew I was facing a past wound because a seemingly insignificant story made it feel like my heart stopped beating for a second.

I reacted. But I thought I was past it. And in so many beautiful ways, I am.

But the truth is, sometimes the past still hurts.

And sometimes it hurts really bad.

We can move forward, we can move on, but when our heart has been broken sometimes fragments and fissures remain. And you know what, that’s okay.

That’s where we become real.

That is the place where we begin to know compassion, and where our capacity for growth is conceived. Where we can begin to look past the hurt to the hurt-er and know that their pain is most likely even deeper than our own.

I truly believe from experience that every trial we face is meant for our refinement and, although I don’t welcome them at the time, I’m thankful for each and every one.

This particular wound goes pretty deep and I still have work to do.

Do you have one of those?

I know it’s not really very “cool” as far as our culture goes to admit weakness, but I’m losing regard for the rules of our culture today.

We are only as strong as our greatest weakness and we’ve all got them. The question is whether we admit them, talk about them, grow through them, and let them change us…or we allow them to limit our strength.

I’m not willing to let my fear keep me small. This journey is about being bold.

Boldness demands that we live our lives with intention or we risk missing the point.

The inevitability of this life is that we will have trial, we will face pain, and we will be tempted to lose heart. But we have a choice.

We can be bold and brave, we can face our adversaries and speak truth and love. We can allow the hurt to make us stronger and the lies weaker. We can unshackle ourselves from those things that try to hold us back. We can design our lives free from bondage and boldly live unhindered lives.

But first we’ve got to be real. It’s the birthplace of freedom.

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  • Jan Grueter October 26, 2012, 5:46 pm

    Hi Tammy my niece is Karen Bowlin. I so look forward to your writings. Blessings, Jan

  • Tammy October 26, 2012, 6:49 pm

    Thank you jan! I’m so glad you’re here. And p.s. I love your niece.

  • Melanie October 27, 2012, 11:55 am

    Hmmmm good word my dear friend! On those days that I get my breath taking away from some hurt or pain from my past I feel so discouraged & defeated of my own journey throughout the process of dealing with my hurt. Shouldnt i be past this? Wasnt i further along in this journey of healing? But like you said the truth is it takes time. Time to rebuild trust. Time to retrain my mind from triggers that can make my thoughts go CRAZY! Sigh….! Ultimately it all leads back to my great need for a Savior. A Savior who wants my utmost dependence on Him & not myself. God is good, oh so good. I’m so thankful for a friend like you to walk this journey through side by side. L.o.v.e

  • Kelly October 27, 2012, 1:23 pm

    Beautifully written and perfectly true. Thank you for opening your heart and all of your thoughts to us!!

    Love you.

  • Michele Hackett October 27, 2012, 2:42 pm

    I am so inspired! What a beautiful and rich take on attacking insecurities and believing in ones right to be happy and whole. I can’t wait to get to know you better and call you friend. Well done!

  • Melissa October 27, 2012, 2:46 pm

    Wonderfully written. Brought tears
    To my eyes. Thanks for opening your heart.


  • Kelli October 27, 2012, 9:33 pm

    Thanks for this! I really needed this today and it helped me. I think most people could relate to this. Thanks again for sharing. Muah

    • Tammy October 31, 2012, 9:44 pm

      so excited to have you here kelli! xoxo

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    • Tammy September 22, 2013, 12:09 am

      hi scarlett! on the right sidebar you can follow us through our facebook link, where i post several times a week…and you can subscribe to receive all posts directly to your email as well! happy to have you here!

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