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In the name of love

in the name of love

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In honor of the month of love and Melanie Shankle‘s new book on marriage, I’m linking up with Edie about what I love the most about mine. Particularly what I love the most about my husband — and I want to encourage you to think about what you love most about yours.

In my case it isn’t smushy or romantic because, well, he’s not really either of those things.

If you know him, you’re probably laughing! {okay, stop already!!}

But one of my favorite stories about him comes when we were dating and is something I remind myself often in our marriage.

Early on we had some ups and downs, some dates I thought he was great and others I felt it couldn’t get over quick enough!

Then a few weeks into dating I met one of his oldest friends.

In line to get coffee I had a single moment alone with him to get some inside information. I leaned over and whispered, “So what’s the deal with him?” “Give me some insight.”

Without any hesitation or forethought, he said 5 words that I remind myself of on a regular basis. With a glint in his eye and a slight smile on his lips, he said: “Great package. Really bad advertising.”

In that moment I wasn’t sure how to respond. I wasn’t sure if that was a good thing or a bad thing. But I know for certain now. Eleven years later, those 5 words make up the essence of a man I am blessed beyond measure to have as my husband.

So in honor of the month of love, here is what I love the most about my man:

I love that he is who is says he is. What you see is definitely what you get. It isn’t always soft or warm or particularly loving in a traditional sense, we like to say he’s a little rough around the edges, but his heart is true. His life is lived with integrity and when he fails, he fails honestly.

And that, to me, is real.

And more than anything, more than any gift or romantic gesture or overture, I love real.

We can work with real.

What in the name of love, do you appreciate and love most about your husband?

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  • Heidi February 10, 2014, 3:36 pm

    What a great answer! I think those words would describe many of us! Thanks for sharing!

    • Tammy February 10, 2014, 10:16 pm

      thanks heidi! blessings.

  • edie February 10, 2014, 3:49 pm

    Love it! I think our men were cut from the same cloth!
    Thanks so much for joining us for celebrating marriage!

    • Tammy February 10, 2014, 10:15 pm

      thanks edie! it’s a good cloth. 🙂

  • Donna February 10, 2014, 9:55 pm

    Love the comment. I think our husband’s could be friends!

    • Tammy February 10, 2014, 10:16 pm

      hahah, thanks donna! 🙂

  • Erica - Let Why Lead February 11, 2014, 6:40 pm

    Hi Tammy! I really appreciated your perspective! It’s easy for me to wish my husband were a little more this or that (maybe a little more romantic or a bit more emotionally open), but this really reminded me to just appreciate what I’ve got. Thank you!

    Visiting from Edie’s linkup, btw! Your blog is beautiful!

    • Tammy February 11, 2014, 8:35 pm

      thank you erica! it’s so true – i think we are all prone to wishing and hoping and dreaming of other things in our husbands – but when we’re honest with ourselves, we’re not perfect either. thank you for sharing!

  • Krista February 21, 2014, 7:08 am

    This is so darling… {love}

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