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love does : a beggar like me

our small group just finished the incredible book: love does, by bob goff.  have you read it?  if you haven’t, you should definitely put it on your reading list.  a simple and yet profound book demonstrating love in action.  because love in theory isn’t really love at all.  love acts.  it steps out in faith, it thrills in wonder, and acts in radically heart-altering, life-changing ways.  love, simply, does.

a few weeks ago we broke off in pairs and went out to “do” love does.  to live it.  now, i have to admit that ‘love does’ is really more about an awareness in our daily lives.  the process of transforming our selfish human hearts to see the pain and need in those around us and act.  because pain and need is ALL around us.  we live in a world of walking wounded.  many of us expert pretenders.  covering the hurt and pain with an assortment of masks.  and some of us have a good game face.  but the reality is, we’re hurt.  broken.  needy.  we see the dirty, disheveled man on the street corner holding a cardboard sign for money or food and we keep on driving.  we see a beggar.  but at least he’s honest.  at least he has the courage to stand in his street clothes and outstretch his hand.  because the truth is: we’re all beggars.  especially me.  especially you.

one beggar to another.  one brother, sister, to another.  all in need.  begging for someone to love us, care for us, SEE us.  know us.  feed us, clothe us, ask about us.  invite us, include us, just LOOK at us.  beneath the surface.  past the exterior.  begging to be seen.  known.  loved.  if we aren’t struggling for our very daily needs, then we’re searching for something more.  perhaps we don’t even know what it is we’re looking for.  each of us hard-wired, longing to feel important, significant, valued.  set apart.

created to desire those things, and yet we live our daily lives pretending we don’t.  denying the very essence of our nature.  to love and be loved.  to know and be known.  the very thing we look for in a relationship with another is their ability and desire to open up to us; to be real and authentic and vulnerable.  and it is the very thing we try to hide.  keep secret.  safe.  we beg for acceptance and yet we hide behind masks.  behind walls.  each one of us,  a heart made for eden, begging for fulfillment on earth.  never satisfied.

it’s why we must find our identity in Him.  the One who never fails us.  the One who sees us.  knows us.  desires us.  loves us.


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our experiment was fun.  interesting.  some touching and funny stories.  but i realized something very significant about myself in the process.  i’m pretty aware.  i’ve always been extremely intuitive and can sense people’s emotions.  but i’m not great at acting on love.  if i know the person well i am extremely comfortable showing affection, but when it comes to strangers or acquaintances, i can become incredibly hindered by fear.  fear of offending them, seeming self-righteous, appearing weird {i mean, it’s just not “normal” to radically love a stranger}!  so often my fear or insecurity holds me back from acting in love.  sharing the light that God so wants me to shine onto others.  but when we’re stopped, love is stopped.  and true love doesn’t stop.  it does.  stop begging.  start doing.  i think you’ll end up finding what you’re looking for.  it’s there.  somewhere in the doing.


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  • C May 6, 2013, 2:18 pm

    Just ordered 2 of Brene brown’s books after watching super soul Sunday this weekend. I remember you had made reference to them before and well since I love the way you think, speak, and write I thought I should check it out! Keep growing and going in grace!!

    • Tammy May 7, 2013, 4:28 am

      oooh i’m so glad c! i love all of her books, you WILL be blessed. thank you for your kind words!

  • Krista May 7, 2013, 6:35 pm

    Adore this. So true. But mostly, love doing a life of love together. It’s what counts.

    • Tammy May 8, 2013, 5:16 am

      it is what counts. thankful to have you by my side every step. xoxo

  • Kay May 9, 2013, 2:39 am

    Orren and I just returned from a three day seminar. Lizzy was the gal who worked in the breakfast area and made sure there was always hot coffee in our meeting room. I tried to catch her eye every time she walked in the room with a fresh pot and mouth “thanks” or smile. Or talk with her in the breakfast room. Just honor her hard work. I almost felt like I’d made a new friend by the end of the seminar.

    • Tammy May 14, 2013, 12:17 am

      that is so awesome. it’s always the simple things. kindness matters. xoxo

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