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Why it hurts to confess


Honesty is hard.

It’s difficult to give and sometimes even harder to receive.

The hardest honesty is the kind spoken to your own self.

The kind that looks in the mirror and just says it like it is.

That kind hurts.

But here is what I know: It also heals.

Recently I had to look at myself in the mirror and say a few things. Things I didn’t want to say or admit or take responsibility for the blame.

Believe me, I had plenty of excuses. 

But in the end, the blame was mine to take.

It’s easy to point fingers at someone else to excuse or justify our mistake. It’s much harder to take responsibility for our own thoughts.

It’s humbling.

And I try really hard to remember to humble myself so God doesn’t have to do it for me. I have learned the lesson: He will.

After confessing to myself I knew I wasn’t finished yet.

There was something in me telling me I needed to confess it to someone else. Needed to take the humbling step of admitting my weakness; my failure. Even if it was just in my own mind.

And knowing how hard it was to confess certainly made me much more determined not to do it again.

There is power in confession. 

It’s definitely not logical because the last thing we want to do is bring more attention to our fault. To highlight the thing that we’re most trying to hide. The things that makes us imperfect and broken.

The things that make us human.

It doesn’t make any sense. It’s goes against everything we know about protecting ourself.

And yet it’s the only thing that sets us free.

Before my confession I felt nervous and angry and disappointed in myself. I felt like a rusted out old pickup truck, useless for anything God would have for me do. I felt like I had disappointed Him.

Immediately after I felt free.

Because I want my choices to reflect my hopes and dreams for my future, not the fears of my past. In order to have that a reality we must be willing to accept our story. All of our story.

Even the messy, stupid mistakes and thoughts in our head.

I don’t know about you, but I think that makes us strong.

When we confess our humanness and our nature to sin, we get to stop acting like we live perfect lives. 

We don’t. 

We get to free ourselves up from being perfect, so we can be ready to act in accordance with our integrity. Ready to do the things necessary to course correct, and live in line with our principles. Every single day if we have to.

For me, it means living in line with the God who lives in me. The One who holds me to a higher standard of love despite my flesh.

I do want to be clear on one thing: confession is kind.

It’s not borne out of judgment or demand. It’s given out of the true conviction of our hearts, not the condemnation of our enemies.

In a moment, gone were the feelings of disappointment, regret and fear. In their place was humility, acceptance and courage.

Today’s Challenge: If there is something weighing on your heart, pulling you down, I want to encourage you to confess it. From silly to serious, do yourself a favor and get it off your chest. Confess it to yourself, and if you have a friend or person you can trust, confess it to them. We were meant to help carry each other’s burdens. Being honest helps to make life clean and simple. After all, you don’t have to remember a lie. Submit to the power of confession, choose wisely with whom you share your story, and then let it go. You were made to be free.

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  • Ashlee October 28, 2014, 4:46 am

    Just wow. This may be my new favorite from you! Good stuff here, truth telling and I have lived this exact road to freedom you write about here. It’s powerful, I tell you… But you already know it as well since you have lived this firsthand as well!

    • Tammy October 28, 2014, 7:36 pm

      Thanks Ashlee!! So glad you’re here! xo

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