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Take back your schedule (like a boss)


If you’re anything like me you’re well enough into parenting and life to know that the calendar isn’t slowing down anytime soon. In fact, it’s quite possible it may never let go of it’s fierce hold on me unless I get downright bossy about it.

And so I’m bossing.

We live in a day and time that if your kids don’t start soccer, baseball, volleyball or ballet by age 3, then they’re somehow falling behind or you’re not measuring up. Where should-haves and should-dos are running our to-dos and must-dos.

I can’t tell you how many times I sit down to write my to-do list and it’s so full of things I don’t have any interest or desire to do, that I start writing down things I’ve already done or really don’t need to do so that I can at least cross something off!

Can I get an amen?!

So many of us (and quite possibly all of us) live in a perpetual state of what my family affectionately calls FOMO. Fear Of Missing Out.

We’re afraid if we don’t show up or give in then somehow we’ll be left behind.

And so we pack our schedules with as much as we can manage, running ourselves and even our kids to the brink of empty, crashing in bed wondering why we do it all in the first place, and then waking up to start it all over the very next day.

And I’m wondering what it is that we really fear missing out on or losing, if we just step back a little? What are we afraid of?

Because each of us knows at the very deepest level of our heart that our spouses and kids and family comes first. That on the brink of disaster or emergency there are only a handful that we can call. We know our deepest, truest and yet we’re afraid to give up on the false security of casting wide nets.

When you look at successful corporations and businesses, what do they have in common? Many of the greatest cast as vision and actually write a mission statement for their organization. Recently, my husband and I wrote a family mission statement.

It’s merely a reflection of our heart for our family and the way we want to design our lives with intention. It reflects what we want to be about, what is important to us, and how we will try to live our lives together, and as individuals, with unity and purpose. My husband and I both strongly believe that we have the power and the great privilege to design our lives. It’s our job to do it well.

When you sit down with pen and paper and really think about the things that matter…a lot of the distractions easily fall away. You identify what things are most important to you. What you believe makes you strong. You can read ours here and I cannot suggest strongly enough that you write one for your family (business).

Because the reality is: if you’re not minding your business, who is?

Once you have written your family mission statement, there are a few questions to consider before adding something to your schedule.

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  • Bendilyn Bach May 31, 2014, 4:22 pm

    This is such an important post, Tammy. I keep looking for the “like” button to affirm your words. I think that I have finally gotten over the FOMO when it comes to my life and schedule (a natural — and, maybe even healthy — consequence of motherhood?). What I fear now is making the “wrong” decision for my family: What if taking our son out of XXX will reduce his circle of friends? What if not signing up our daughter for XXX will result in her inability to play/participate in the future? These outcomes are very possible, and very real. Your suggestion of a mission statement seems like a wonderful way to remain focused on what matters more, perhaps, than childhood friendships and recreational pastimes. Hold on to it when you feel like a salmon swimming against the stream. Blessings on your journey!

    • Tammy June 2, 2014, 8:37 pm

      I fear those exact same things too Bendi! Desiring the best for our kids and yet protecting family and time together too. It’s such a balancing act and we’re only just beginning. The salmon swimming against the stream is a perfect illustration as we fight culture and what has become normal. At least there’s a good number of us going against the flow! Blessings to YOU! xo

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