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What we do matters

The last few days have been a time of restoration and renewal. No output.

As moms, wives, friends, daughters, sisters, caregivers, teachers, and everything else we do-ers, we output every day, all day. We don’t often have a lot of extra time for input. Last week I think I came to the end of me and so I stopped. I didn’t type a single letter, I stopped fretting about my kids eating their meals, I didn’t worry about who was thinking what about anything. You know what I’ve done instead?


Time in me. Time in my kids and my husband. The real stuff.

I ordered a slew of new books from Amazon and stopped at a bookstore the other day. My husband looks over at my nightstand and just shakes his head. I’ve been getting up early to spend time in my Bible. Reading other books while I cook dinner; a spoon in one hand a book in the other. Taking a bath each night with a book in the bubbles.

It’s so good. It’s how I heal and grow. It’s what I love, really. Books = therapy for me.

The words of another’s soul and how they can speak such truth to my own, though I don’t know their circumstance and I don’t know their life. It’s really a beautiful thing I think, books. It makes me wonder why I write at all.

I mean, seriously. We have C.S. Lewis and ya’ll have Ann Voskamp, and Beth Moore, and Lysa Terkeurst and all these other incredible women writers out there….there’s certainly no need in the world of writing for me. But I write anyway.

Because I love to. And because I feel like I’m supposed to for some reason unknown to me. Just when I think I should give it up, I read this:

“Are you afraid to be who you really are?  Have you insulated yourself from truth to protect your house of cards?  Your courage to step into the light might be the nudge someone else needs.  What is one thing you can do today to inch closer to truth.”

And so I write. I think that’s what this place is about. Being truthful. Speaking truth and living truth. Choosing to be authentic every day even when it’s ugly because that’s what’s real.

We can attempt to live pretty lives but they’re only pretty on the outside. A scratch beneath the surface they are messy and painful and sometimes just plain old ugly. But it’s important that we try because here’s the truth: what we do here matters. Not just {here}, but what we do here in our lives.

The message that we live with our lives, the truth that we speak with our lives, the way we that touch other people’s lives with our lives, it matters.  So maybe I write for just one single person out there who will relate to my experience, my journey, my words, and that in some really small way it might make a difference. That it might encourage them to be who they really are and to know that who they are is enough. Maybe it’s only for me to try to be who I really am in a world that makes that very hard. And that is enough.

It is more than enough.

Where are you today? Exhausted? Out of balance? Not enough input to balance the breakneck speed of output?

It’s not a waste of time to pause. To be still. To take a bath or curl up on the couch and read instead of doing laundry, cooking, cleaning, or whatever else will be waiting for you tomorrow. It’s okay to do what you need to do to restore.

It’s not lazy or indulgent. It’s input.

Put on your oxygen mask. In the midst of our crazy busy lives we need to make sure that our input is equal to or greater than our output so that we can make a difference in our life. That we can touch others with our life. That what we stand for, what we demonstrate, how we live…that it matches our values. That it means something.

Take some time to input in the way that speaks most tenderly to your heart and soul. I need it, you need it. Take it.  And ask yourself the same question i did: are you afraid to be who you really are? Have you insulated yourself from truth to protect your house of cards? Know that your courage to step into the light might be the nudge someone else needs.

What is one thing you can do today to inch closer to truth? The message of your life and the legacy you leave hinge on it. Dare to be beautifully unhindered. For real.


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  • JoAnn February 18, 2013, 4:06 pm

    Thanks for the encouragement.

    • Tammy February 19, 2013, 3:35 am

      you’re welcome joann! thanks for being here. 🙂

  • Noelle February 18, 2013, 6:44 pm

    Lovely post, thanks for that! it’s a beautiful thing the way you write, really and truly so heartfelt I can feel it. And yes I am trying to be still and be who I am sometimes it’s hard, but I know it’s worth it. I am working on the input as you say very hard. thanks again.

    • Tammy February 18, 2013, 10:54 pm

      you’re welcome ladies! thank you for being here and a part of this journey. thank you for your sweet encouragement to me always, noelle. you are a jewel. xoxo

  • Angie February 19, 2013, 3:18 am

    When our tanks/souls are full it’s amazing what we can do and who we become. Fill away… For heck sake let it spill over a bit.

  • Anna Wright February 19, 2013, 8:04 am

    Loving this post tonight, as a Momma we spend so much time investing in others…but if we don’t invest in us……..fill up our own tanks…….what help can we actually be to others? We can’t give away what we don’t have…….

    • Tammy February 19, 2013, 3:39 pm

      exactly miss anna. fill ‘er up! xoxo

  • C February 19, 2013, 3:20 pm

    God is using you in such a beautiful way! The words you write demonstrate the love in your heart and inspire others. The other authors also had to start somewhere :)!

  • Lindsay Stewart March 12, 2013, 11:05 pm

    Thanks for sharing – it is always nice to hear someone else say the very thing that you are feeling – we get so busy with work/our wonderful familes/friends/church it is so easy to get overwhelmed and almost feel like throwing in the towel. Finding balance and peace is the key! I totally needed to read this today (and prob need to write a blog about it as well!!) THANKS!!!

    • Tammy March 13, 2013, 5:08 am

      i’m so glad it helped lindsay.

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